I gotta say, I’m tired of seeing the quote of Ricky Gervais saying, “Just because you’re offended, doesn’t mean you’re in the right.” That’s not a trump quote. Yeah, some people are offended by weird things, but saying what Ricky Gervais is telling them isn’t going to change how they feel.
That quote is something you say when you don’t want to try to enlighten someone, it’s something you say when you want to make them feel inferior or not worth listening to. No one is going to see that quote and then re-evaluate their feelings and views. They’re going to see it and read it as, “You are wrong. That’s all.” That is a pointless way to deal with someone being offended.
If someone’s offended and you have the opportunity to figure out why, then figure out why. Don’t just ask about their view with the goal of saying that all their points are wrong. If someone is offended, you need to come to an understanding with them, not tell them they are wrong for being offended.
There are different degrees to sticking to your views. You don’t have to give them up to be decent in response to someone’s being wrongly offended. No one is incapable of learning. Although some can be stubborn enough not to see the other side of things, but you never know until you talk with them further than using Ricky Gervais’ quote.
Even if they are offended at something you perceive to be unoffensive, you don’t label their feelings as invalid. You, or someone you’re a fan of, did something to upset them and they would prefer not to have the feeling of getting stepped on. Telling them what Gervais says is basically turning around and stepping on them a second time and then rubbing the sole in their face for a good ridiculing factor. Talk to them. Be considerate and recognize that the sensitive areas for people vary from person to person.
I’ll admit, I don’t always do this myself, but it’s not something that I should be okay with doing. People have made this quote into some sort of sign of pride in their not caring if people are offended.
Why should you feel proud of not caring about how people feel? You don’t have to change who you are or stop doing what you want to do (unless you are doing it with the sole intent of pissing people off), but you can go about dealing with criticism in a much better way than using this quote